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Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by DJKeefy » Sun Oct 06, 2019 7:59 pm

Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy ex who wooed her with camels £40k.

Smitten Marilyn Lewis fell for an Egyptian half her age but is now counting the heartbreaking £40,000 cost after her desert love turned to dust.

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Marilyn ignored family warnings after being swept off her feet by the tour rep who wooed her with free camel rides.

She was 50 and £15-a-day guide Amr Elasar was just 22 when they met at a Red Sea resort in 2008.

A romance began the following year when Marilyn returned to Sharm El Sheikh, where she and her ex-husband co-own a villa.

She and Amr wed at the British Embassy in Cairo in 2009 but things turned sour back in the UK – despite Marilyn blowing £30,000 on treats for her new husband.

Marilyn says he turned “moody and money-grabbing” and went on cougar dating sites.

They eventually divorced in 2014. Now Marilyn, a 61-year-old gran, must pay him £40,000 in a court-ordered divorce settlement.

Pet sitter Marilyn, who has daughters aged 34 and 32 and a 21-year-old son, tells the Sunday Mirror: “I feel sick. I’m a kind and compassionate person and it horrifies me to realise my husband was only after my cash.

“Behind his charisma is a cold and calculating character. He never loved me – he loved what I could bring him.

“He mentioned how lucky I was to live in the UK. I brought him here, now I’m paying the price.”

Marilyn thought Amr was 28 when they met and admits being embarrassed after ignoring pleas not to make him husband No3.

Revealing how her heart ruled her head, she says: “It might sound crazy but those first dates were the best days of my life.

“He wooed me like a pro and I was flattered. I’d never met anybody who made me laugh like that and was so romantic.

“It was like a film. He took me to Cairo, he gave me camel rides and one night he stuck candles in the sand and arranged a musician to serenade us.

“I was embarrassed to be with a younger man, but he told me our souls were the same age.

“Initially Amr paid for everything but soon he told me he wanted a phone and then an iPad, which I bought. And I often wired him cash.

“I was happy to oblige him with the odd gift, but back in the UK he wanted more and more and I stupidly went with it. I was insecure being with a young, handsome man and was trying to recapture the good times.

“I even remortgaged my house to buy him stuff.”

Marilyn says warnings from family and friends only made her “more determined to do what I wanted”.

She did insist on a pre-nup but never got it signed by a witness – so it was void.

Marilyn realised things were unravelling after they returned to the UK in 2010, with Amr initially staying on a six-month visa.

Her daughters moved out of the family home in Bexleyheath, South East London, in protest. Marilyn says: “Amr changed almost instantly, becoming moody and more demanding.

“He kept telling me I promised to take care of him.

“I spent thousands on a car and driving lessons for him so he could have a good life here.

“After a while I suspected him of messaging women on social media. He promised he wasn’t but when he returned to Egypt the following February we briefly split.”

Marilyn claims that one woman in her 60s contacted her claiming to be owed £6,000 by Amr.

She dismissed the woman as a bitter ex – but now regrets being so hasty. Marilyn says Amr returned to the UK in September 2011 and they rekindled their relationship.

But within months, Marilyn says she found he had messaged lovelorn women claiming to be an accountant.

“I felt utterly betrayed,” she says. “I confronted him and he swore he would have counselling. I insisted he moved out – but we remained a couple.”

She finally dumped him after he persuaded her to buy him a £4,000 second-hand Mercedes in March 2014, promising to pay her back £200 a month.

Marilyn adds: “We had this blazing row in front of the salesman and eventually I agreed to buy it, but I felt a fool.

“He only paid £400 over two months. Then the bailiffs came round and I found he had taken out two £3,000 loans.

“I insisted he sold the Mercedes to pay off the debts and he was furious.

“I finally realised Amr had only wanted what I could give him. I was utterly humiliated.

“Everyone was thinking ‘I told you so’. My trust in people was completely destroyed.”

The divorce was finalised in summer 2014, around the time Amr was granted leave to remain in the UK.

They did meet up occasionally and Marilyn learned Amr had jobs at fast-food chains and other girlfriends.

Then, last year, came the financial bombshell – a £100,000 divorce claim. By the time it reached court last month the claim was down to £50,000, which Marilyn rejected.

But eight days later she was ordered to pay £40,000 in a judgment at Medway County Court, Kent. It was concluded Marilyn would likely be able to meet her own needs in the future, whereas Amr would need to “establish himself” in the UK.

Marilyn, who hopes to appeal, says: “I am staggered, it’s an outrage. I cannot see how this man is entitled to a penny.”

The judge made an exemption on her home being sold to cover costs but recommended proceeds from selling her villa could be used. The holiday home is up for sale but Marilyn has to split proceeds with her second husband – then take out a loan to pay off Amr.

Her daughters have set up a crowdfunding page to help. Marilyn admits: “I got myself into this mess by being too kind and compassionate. I was gullible.”

Amr told the Mirror: “This was a court order. They reviewed everything and I have been rewarded that sum.

“I did not lie. I believe the courts here are very fair.”

He admitted accepting financial help during their marriage, saying: “She was financially better positioned than me and willing to pay for everything.

“I was impressed by her lifestyle and just wanted an adventure and to have a good time. That’s it.

"She wanted me to stop working, said she had money and didn’t care about it. All marriages have financial issues.”

He is now 33 and denied lying about his age.

But he admitted he could “not remember” if he used the cougar dating site to contact other women or not.

Amr added: “She will try anything possible. She might be upset and be seeking revenge.

“I did love her. We travelled and had an amazing time. Anyway, we’re here now.”

Source: https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/g ... d-20468039


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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by BENNU » Sun Oct 06, 2019 8:47 pm

“... it horrifies me to realise my husband was only after my cash ... he gave me camel rides and one night he stuck candles in the sand and arranged a musician to serenade us ..."

There's no such thing as a free camel ride. :mo

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by carrie » Sun Oct 06, 2019 8:53 pm

Oh dear, well I wont be contributing to her crowd funding web site.

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by HEPZIBAH » Sun Oct 06, 2019 10:05 pm

'She was 50 and £15-a-day guide Amr Elasar was just 22 when they met at a Red Sea resort in 2008.'

I have no idea what an Egyptian tour rep/guide earns, but is the sum of £15 a day in 2008 a realistic sum? I can't remember what the exchange rate was back then but think it was between 7-10 LE to the £.
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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by DJKeefy » Sun Oct 06, 2019 10:29 pm

I think it was around 100LE (£10) (possibly half day) back then in Luxor.
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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by BENNU » Sun Oct 06, 2019 10:46 pm

But this included a camel ride.

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by Who2 » Mon Oct 07, 2019 7:30 am

With age should come wisdom, obviously when holidaying in Egypt that goes out the window..... 8)

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by DJKeefy » Mon Oct 07, 2019 7:41 am

Who2 wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2019 7:30 am

“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.”
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I'm sure there is plenty of people who love someone without sex :o
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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by Ruby Slippers » Mon Oct 07, 2019 12:23 pm

How odd! I was only thinking yesterday about the lack of 'not my Mohamed' posts on here lately!

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by newcastle » Mon Oct 07, 2019 1:01 pm

Ruby Slippers wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2019 12:23 pm
How odd! I was only thinking yesterday about the lack of 'not my Mohamed' posts on here lately!
A sign of the times...less UK tourists = less cougars = less tabloid horror stories :lol:

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by pinkmagic » Mon Oct 07, 2019 1:31 pm

Oh dear, some people never learn!

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by Who2 » Mon Oct 07, 2019 5:12 pm

I often wonder what ever happened to Laura our 'drug mule from Hull...
Did a novel ever appear was she on Jeremy Kyle ? or I'm a celebrity get me the f*ck outa here ?

I mean, for you lot it's nothing but, for those on tramadol it's a lifeline...to violence aggition &
high anxiety.....
Remember: 'never condemn one until you have walked a mile in their moccasins

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I rest my case: 'Pollice verso or verso pollice that means 'thumbs up or down....
Ps: Nice to see the two asian and indian ladies behind her have been looking after themselves....
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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by BENNU » Mon Oct 07, 2019 10:29 pm

Ruby Slippers wrote:
Mon Oct 07, 2019 12:23 pm
I was only thinking yesterday about the lack of 'not my Mohamed' posts on here lately!
We still hear them every day.

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Re: Gran's fury after being told to pay Egyptian toyboy

Post by crewmeal » Thu Oct 10, 2019 4:35 pm

I must get my toy boy sorted he's a pain in the arse :D :D :D

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